Dear Love

Hi, I fell in love with a guy about 2 years ago, and we went out for a year. I got pregnant and he left me. I was very stressed out by this and had a miscarriage. He is now with a young, immature girl who cheats on him. He knows what she is doing and doesn't even care. The problem is that I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I know what he did was wrong, but I am sure he was scared, just as I was. How can I get over him? I can't move on with the thoughts of him in my head. I have tried, but it won't work. Someone told me that his current girlfriend is pregnant. He was at the doctor with her the other day. I don't know that is true or not, but it really upsets me to think he would be there for her, and has only known her for a couple months... please help me if you can. -Still in Love

Dear Still in Love,

 You need to find some way to get closure and move on. I don't know that there is a future for you and your ex. He may have originally left you because he was scared, but I can't help feeling that there must have been something else wrong as well. Either way, it is not a good situation for you as he is in another relationship and you really need to move on. My advice would be to sit down with a journal and just start writing about everything you are feeling. Don't try to compose your thoughts or even make them make sense - just write… for as long as it takes. There are also some wonderful resources for you in our break up central section. If you spend all your energy focusing on the past, you won't have any time to create the future you desire and deserve. Remember, what you do today determines what your life will be like in the future. Apply the lessons you've learned, close this chapter in your life for good, and get start on writing the next one.


With Love,
LOVE