The key to being happy in a relationship does not lie in trying to avoid the arguments and bottling up the emotions. It lies in expressing the emotions felt and if there are heated arguments over certain issues, make sure you sit down and resolve these issues calmly, after the storm is over.
When you are intent upon making up after an argument, then there is nothing that can stop you. Many couples do it by simple letting the thing pass; many do it with a simple kiss and getting absorbed in the throes of passion while a majority of them prefer to talk it out completely to prevent any further trouble over the same reasons.
Here are a few tips that will help you tread safely on the troubled waters and patch up safely and effectively with your partner after an argument:
Get to the core of the issue
More often than not, when you try to analyse the reason behind the fight, you are hit with the sudden realization that you are actually fighting for no reason at all; or there are other forces that are driving you to act this way. These forces could be one of the following:
Low self-confidence: More often than not, you do think yourself deserving of the love being showered on you and to enforce your need for assurances, you end up creating a big whole fuss about absolutely nothing.
Estrangement:Often the fear of losing your partner may force you to act irrationally.
You may also feel as if not being cared for, or perhaps used by your partner for achieving some selfish ends.
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