Dealing With Her Ultimatums

No matter how adjusting your spouse or girlfriend is, it’s only natural for she will want things her way now and then.

Although, it’s ok to let woman have their way at times, you know she’s crossing the line when she’s resorts to the ultimate in relationship weapon - the ultimatum.

This is when you face the patented female cry of, "or else", the most. She might threaten to leave you or to just make your life miserable; either way, there are a few tactics that can help you out when dealing with ultimatums. Sure you can snub her but ignore these only if you are willing to listen to her countless banter during the India-Australia finals.

These tactics are especially useful if you judge your situation correctly and react accordingly. Read the Xperts view and to get prepared for just about anything she can throw your way, and how you can diffuse an otherwise no-win situation. While you might not get these exact bombs thrown your way, this Xpert’s guide can help you categorize what she wants and what to do when dealing with ultimatums.

Ultimatum no. 1

“You spend too much time with your friends, stop-it, or else we’re spending more time with my family.”

Xpert tactic: Deflect the threat

If the request is outrageous, it's fine to turn-tables and send the ultimatum back at her. If she says, “if you loved me you wouldn't go out with the friends tonight,” your can respond by saying, "if you loved me you wouldn’t stop me from having a personal life” or “if you loved me you wouldn’t be afraid of me having a social life."

It’s a good idea to make your girl see the situation if she’s in it. No woman can expect complete compliance when she's asking you to change, so when you rework her ultimatum into a response that focuses on her, she'll understand how the situation might really be about her and not you. Granted, your approach will have to be gentler than what’s presented, but you get the general idea.

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